Treating women like any dangerous drug

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Longshot39
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Treating women like any dangerous drug

Post by Longshot39 » Fri Apr 02, 2010 4:28 am

Looking at all of the stories of divorce and how it messes up the lives of men, I've drawn a certain correlation. Think of someone who's addicted to meth, crack, cocaine, heroin, or some other addicting drug. The person will do just about anything to get that drug, they will ruin their finances, lie and cheat friends and family, and often end up homeless.

A man in a serious relationship to the point where a woman moves in with them for a long enough period of time, can have symptoms VERY similar to that of a junkie, only worse. How is it worse, you might ask?

A person that eventually quits a dangerous drug might still have cravings, but once they've kicked the habit, the drug does no further damage. A man who gets divorced, often pays for child support, alimony, etc., long after he quits "cold turkey." The junkie, once they start to rehabilitate themselves, also get support, sympathy, and encouragement.

The divorced man ( except on sites like this ) get nothing of the sort from society, though that man is also very damaged, and went through a life destroying event. In fact, he's often ridiculed, and blamed for the divorce. For instance, him cheating makes him an unfaithful jerk, her cheating makes him someone who neglected his wife.

Also much like drugs, different people can have a stronger or weaker tolerance to women. There are some who can kick a woman to the curb the moment they get uppity, to those ( like myself ), who at least at one time were completely susceptible to women, and behave very much like an addict.

An addict to the point, that we have to ghost in and come back to sites like these to continue to reaffirm our choices, much like an alcoholic has to go to AA even after they've stopped drinking decades ago. Some have found the best way is to minimize contact with this addictive substance called woman, so we don't become something worse than an addict, a mangina.

Don't forget, even though we are all men going our own ways, in some ways we are all in this together. If forums like this save a few of us here and there, it's well worth having. Just remember to treat women like you would any other dangerous drug.

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Treating women like any dangerous drug

Post by dsc » Fri Apr 02, 2010 6:00 am

Great post, +1

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Treating women like any dangerous drug

Post by Madsen » Fri Apr 02, 2010 9:52 pm

Excellent analogy!
I bet this could be fleshed out even further and really have some legs under it.

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Treating women like any dangerous drug

Post by shade47 » Mon Sep 27, 2010 6:06 pm

This isn't even an analogy. It's basically the truth. Basically women were the first drug for men in the form of sex. Other then sex, there is basically no reason I would have anything to do with women. The only reason I speak to them is if I want to get laid.

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Treating women like any dangerous drug

Post by rowingdude » Mon Sep 27, 2010 6:36 pm

Pursuant to the OP; the pain equated with the relationship's termination is VERY similar "withdraw"

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Treating women like any dangerous drug

Post by smogboy » Mon Sep 27, 2010 10:44 pm

+1 longshot! This is it exactly.

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Treating women like any dangerous drug

Post by 2wize » Tue Sep 28, 2010 10:22 am

Yep, I told my brother that sex was like crack, it makes you feel kickass for about 30 seconds, but you have to spend your entire day begging for change just to buy some. :P


(Off topic: Just reconnected with an old friend on Facebook who's all depressed over some chick. It just keeps happening to everyone I know....)

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Post by extraycrom » Wed Sep 29, 2010 12:48 pm

Women may not actually be a drug, but like any dangerous drug they are a distraction. A distraction that can take years away from your life and destroy the dreams in your life.

Trust me on that one.

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Post by 2wize » Thu Sep 30, 2010 9:41 am

Actually, for those that don't know, the drug is called Oxytocin (No, I didn't say Oxycontin. :P) http://www.oxytocin.org/oxytoc/


"The hormone facilitates nest building[...]"

"[...]and the formation of adult pair-bonds[...]"


Nature's little trick. Who's smarter, you or nature? :)

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Re: Treating women like any dangerous drug

Post by inplainsight » Fri Dec 05, 2014 9:24 am

Brilliant post.
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Re: Treating women like any dangerous drug

Post by richard_snoggins » Mon Jan 12, 2015 3:33 pm

The original post is five years old and still resonates deeply with me. My ex-wife just died of an overdose before this Christmas. She put me through unbelievable amounts of torture and pain until I finally broke free of her in 2013. I still miss her to the point it physically hurts. But I am strengthened by the fact that I survived her. She truly was a natural disaster for me, much like a tornado or hurricane. I survived - and now I am different. Addictions come in every shape and size. Mine was 5'6" and gorgeous, with a capacity for destruction I hope to never see again.

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